How Faulty Beliefs may Affect Behaviour
Let’s have a look at how faulty subconscious beliefs might play out in a child’s behaviour. All of the following have an anxiety base as the child does not feel subconsciously loved, lovable or safe:
- Being hyperactive, hard to control, nervous, agitated or explosive
- Experiencing separation anxiety
- Fighting with siblings or being aggressive with others
- Having trouble sleeping or experiencing nightmares
- Being stuck in habits like bedwetting or nail biting
- Feeling troubled about parental separation or other issues at home
- Lack of confidence / afraid to try new things
Moreover, if the child’s core subconscious beliefs remain about not being loved, lovable or safe, then they will carry these through to adulthood and make poor life choices based on these faulty beliefs. These may include selecting poor quality partners, struggling financially due to feelings of low self-worth, choosing low-paying jobs and failure to challenge themselves with further education.
As a therapist in private practice for over 20 years, I have seen the common thread repeatedly that as the layers of emotional turmoil are peeled back there is a core underlying (and usually totally subconscious) fear-based belief of being unloved and unlovable. This bears no relationship to the actual circumstances in which a person was raised, which may indeed have been in a loving household. In my training I learned that a whopping 85% of people suffer from low self-esteem!
Did you know that most of our beliefs and behaviour patterns are locked in place in the subconscious mind before age five? Pretty scary really when you consider that most adults are still operating by default with a young child’s beliefs! Surely we must be able to change the programming? How hard can it be?
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to correct any faulty beliefs in the subconscious mind of a child – your child or a friend or relative’s child – of being unloved, unlovable and feeling unsafe in the world as early as possible in that child’s life so they don’t have to endure a disempowered life of suffering later on, feeling somehow not good enough or worthy enough? Just imagine: therapists’ rooms could be empty!
Creating the Foundation for New High Self-Esteem Beliefs in Children … for Life
Luckily, if you have had hypnotherapy as an adult or mind-body energy work or any other therapy that works at the subconscious or soul level, then you may have already found that these faulty subconscious beliefs can be dismantled and replaced with new positive, high self-esteem beliefs.
Of course for children, especially that are under 10, hypnotherapy is not suitable as it requires the person to be able to concentrate and focus on what is being said. You probably already know how challenging it can be to keep a young child quiet and still!
There is, however, a drug-free, non-invasive and totally safe option that works brilliantly to correct a child’s faulty beliefs and a whole lot more. It has been used successfully around the world over the last 40 years and is called SleepTalk®. This two minute strategy parents use with children up to the age of around 16 is an auto-suggestion technique to speak directly with the subconscious mind while their child sleeps. The Goulding SleepTalk® process, which incorporates the ‘Top Hat’ technique, allows the subconscious mind of a child to redefine its belief structure and accept alternate suggestions, which upon awakening become their truth and reality. Not all children need this process but it’s a given that they will all benefit from it.
In my role as an Accredited Goulding SleepTalk® consultant, I have been fascinated to see the number of times I have been training a parent in how to correctly say the SleepTalk® Foundation Statements about being loved and lovable when the parent has burst into tears upon hearing these words back for themselves. Their own inner child is hearing the words that they are loved and lovable, maybe for the first time ever!
I am so passionate about this work that it is now the focus of my therapy work, more so than working with adults in their 30s, 40s and 50s ‘mopping up the long-term damage’ caused by faulty beliefs absorbed in their early childhood years. Working with children through SleepTalk® creates a firm foundation of subconscious beliefs of being loved, lovable and safe, leading to high self-esteem and emotional resilience … for life! Imagine what it could mean for your child or grandchild … or even you niece or nephew … or your friend’s child…
SleepTalk® is the greatest gift any parent can give a child to establish the child’s core subconscious belief of being unconditionally loved … for life!
So if you or someone you know has a child, who may be struggling emotionally, behaviourally, socially or with school work, then underlying faulty beliefs in the subconscious mind are likely to be the culprit. The Goulding SleepTalk® for Children Process is the answer to replacing these beliefs completely with new positive beliefs that create a firm foundation of feeling unconditionally loved and lovable with high self-esteem and emotional resilience that lasts for life.
Michelle Mayur is an Accredited Goulding SleepTalk® Consultant at www.unconditionallyloved.com.au and an Amazon #1 Bestselling Author of Embraced by the Divine – The Emerging Woman’s Gateway to Power, Passion and Purpose. Michelle is a Member of the IACT (International Association of Counselors and Therapists) and is passionate about building strong self-esteem and emotional resilience in all children so they can reach their full potential. She also has a special interest in applying the principles of the Goulding SleepTalk® process to people of any age suffering from an ABI (Acquired Brain Injury) and is currently doing research into this. Since 1995, Michelle has been running her successful private practice, Angel Wings Healing, in Melbourne, Australia, and works with clients globally. She has been interviewed on numerous radio shows and telesummits.